You have so much to offer and you’re ready to share your talents with the world. You’ve made countless investments- education, soul searching, sweat equity- and you’re committed to making a change. But it doesn’t come.
I have seen too many strong and capable professionals self-destruct as they wait for the right opportunity to emerge. The more they refocus on their growth the more frustrated they become, in turn amplifying the flaws of their current situation. What was once tolerable if not satisfying quickly becomes toxic and unsustainable as the walls start to close in around them.
By the time they find me they’re often in a state of panic and focus almost entirely on themselves and the urgency of their situations. What I tell them often comes as a surprise.
“You’re getting in your way. You’re undermining your success. If you’re serious about professional growth, then you need to remove yourself from the equation.”
Let me explain.
Even though you are ready to grow and have a greater impact, your hyper-focus on yourself is pulling you down rather than up. When opportunities fail to emerge, our fear responses kick in- self-doubt, panic, anger- we all have our unique variations, but the results are seldom the growth that we crave.
Growth comes from utilizing our gifts and talents toward some impact, something bigger and broader than ourselves. It’s actually a sense of impact that allows us to grow.
But how can you grow and have an impact when you are dissatisfied with your current position and desperate for change? It may seem like a puzzle that is impossible to solve.
Yet the solution is quite simple. Focus on your intended impact instead of yourself.
What is the impact that you are seeking? Is there a particular population you want to serve? What contribution are you longing to make, to whom, and in what context?
Once you have clarified your intended impacts then get close to them and the work. Read articles, volunteer, ask to meet with people and listen to all that they have to offer. Seek out opportunities to build relationships and get involved- even if it seems unrelated to your job search.
The funny thing is that as you get closer to the people you want to serve or the work that you hope to do, you will begin to find ways to add value, building credibility, relationships, and impacts along the way. This is when movement will start to happen.
But even then you may find it necessary to remain in your current position, at least until opportunities develop. Chances are, however, your situation will begin to feel less toxic and ideally you may be able to find ways to grow and contribute until the right opportunity develops.
But beware, growth is a funny thing. As soon as you shift your focus away from your impacts and back to yourself, you will feel the familiar tug of fear starting to pull you back down.
So whatever you do, even when movement starts to happen, remember to stay out of your way!